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A Kidney For Claire

“To be a mother is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”

I thought I was ready to be a mom. I read all the books. I got all the advice. I had all the onesies ready, the nursery painted, the binkies on standby.

I don’t think you can fully prepare for that moment when your baby is finally born. The second I saw my baby boy, my life was no longer mine. It was like my heart had split… and he was half of it. 14 years later, things are no different – now with two, precious sons. When they hurt, I hurt. When they experience joy, my heart explodes. Every decision I make, every plan I put in place, I consider what it all means to them. They are literally pieces of my heart, walking around outside of my body. And sometimes, when I feel like I’m losing all hope, I remind myself that as long as those two boys are happy and healthy, nothing else matters.

Then, I think of my friend, Betsy.

Betsy is our Event Manager at HDR. I have the privilege of working closely with her for executive meetings and events. There are very few people I know that are universally loved and respected by everyone who knows them; that’s Betsy. Her name at HDR is synonymous with high-quality work, professionalism, organization, positivity and kindness. She’s talented, kind, reliable, trustworthy, and she always has a smile and a hug.

She’s also one of the strongest people I know.

Betsy has two beautiful daughters. Her youngest, Claire, was born without fully functioning kidneys. Since her first ultrasound in January 2024, the Stannards’ lives have been filled with doctors, surgeries, diagnoses, prognoses and challenges.

“We went into the 20-week anatomy scan, not wanting to find out the gender,” Betsy told me recently. “When we were there, it took longer than I had remembered from my first pregnancy with Catherine. I just remember them continuing to look at things, and having a really long conversation with the doctor. They knew something was abnormal with her kidney.”

Betsy immediately began weekly appointments with a high-risk OBGYN. Before her baby was even born, she had in-utero surgery at Children’s Hospital Colorado, allowing doctors to place a shunt in the baby’s back to drain excess fluid from her tiny body. At 29 1/2 weeks, Betsy was admitted to the Methodist Women’s Hospital, where she stayed until she hit 36 weeks, to help her baby become strong enough to survive once she was born. Betsy worked remotely throughout that stay, saving her maternity leave and paid time off for her daughter once she arrived.

Claire James Stannard was born on April 29, 2024.

“We were so excited to hear her crying, because I knew that meant her lungs worked,” said Betsy. “Not knowing if she was going to be able to breathe on her own was so scary before that, so hearing it was exciting. I knew that she was going to be a fighter from the beginning.”

Doctors determined that one of Claire’s kidneys was multi-cystic; it had never formed correctly and was essentially just taking up space in her abdomen. Her other kidney was there, but did not filter toxins as most kidneys do. The diagnosis: Claire would need daily dialysis until she was old enough and strong enough for a kidney transplant.

“Prayed. Prayed so hard,” said Betsy. “She was born on a Monday. We moved her to Children’s on that Wednesday, and on Friday she had her first surgery where doctors removed her undeveloped right kidney, placed her peritoneal dialysis catheter, placed her feeding tube button (gastrostomy button), and placed her central line for routine lab draws.”

“We couldn’t pick her up and hold her for two weeks,” remembers Betsy. “This was to allow her dialysis catheter placement to heal. In this picture, she was 11 days old; I was so happy she was grabbing my finger!”

Claire’s first months of life were spent in the NICU at Omaha’s Children’s Hospital & Medical Center. Doctors and nurses had to find a perfect balance to provide Baby Claire nutrition, without flooding her body with fluids she couldn’t flush out. Betsy and her husband JJ learned how to hold their baby girl amid tubes and a dialysis machine, while also focusing on their toddler, Catherine, and unavoidable challenges with work leave and medical bills.

“Those couple of months, I didn’t get to spend time with her as a newborn,” said Betsy. “I was driving back and forth to a hospital and to daycare to pick up our 2-year old who had to then go and visit her sister in the hospital.”

“I prayed a lot, asking why me? Why do we have to endure this?” said Betsy. “I just knew God gave it to me for a reason, because he knows that I can handle it and knows that I have people around me that can help me stand on the days that are hard.”

Doctors estimated Claire would stay at Children’s for a year. She was ready to go home in September.

“She continued to grow and tolerated the dialysis like a champ,” said Betsy. “After four months, they felt she was strong enough to handle things at home. And Children’s Nebraska was so amazing and helpful giving us training and educating us to get through that.”

While it was great to be home together as a family, Claire’s care fell completely to Betsy and JJ. Betsy’s teammates at HDR collectively donated paid time off hours to Betsy, allowing her to take care of her baby girl.

“I was just so grateful that when we got to take her home, I could just focus on her for those couple of months and have that time with her,” said Betsy.

Any parent knows having a newborn is no picnic. It’s even harder when you have a toddler who also needs you. With a special needs child like Claire, Betsy and JJ had to learn a whole new home routine, and plan out a long list of surgeries and appointments needed to keep Claire on track for optimal growth and eventually, a transplant.

Just weeks after she left the NICU, Claire received a helmet, needed from her extended time lying down in the NICU. In October, Claire underwent surgery again for leg casts, needed to correct a dislocated hip and hip dysplasia. And every, single night, Betsy and JJ began the 45-minute process to set Claire up for a full night of her life-saving dialysis.

“I remember with Catherine, we could just grab her, bring her into our bed and watch a movie in the morning or just get up and go,” said Betsy. “With dialysis, you have to plan your entire day around making sure you get set up in the right amount of time. You have to think about, ‘ok, do I have something the next day?’ so we have the full 12 hours with preparation and dialysis, and then ‘what if she spits up or if she poops on her dressing?’ You have to change her, which takes another 45 minutes because diaper changes were so hard with her casts, and then build that extra time into your next day.”

Throughout every trial, every hospital stay, every doctor’s visit… Betsy and her family stayed positive.

Claire bloomed a smile that lit up every room she was part of. She began hitting new milestones like independent tummy time, crawling and standing, eating table foods, and playing with her big sister.

She turned 1 year old with her family as a happy, growing little girl, and one step closer to a kidney transplant. After nonstop visits to all kinds of specialists for additional scans and testing, Betsy and JJ received the news they had been waiting a year and half for: Claire was approved for surgery.

“The UNMC transplant team needs her to be a certain height and weight in order for her to receive a kidney,” said Betsy. “Her lungs look good, her heart looks good. We can see trends that she’s growing at a good rate, healthy and strong, and that there is enough room in her abdomen to receive a working kidney.”

To me, the finish line seems so very close for my amazing friend. In reality, this is just one more chapter in her family’s story. Doctors have approved Claire for a kidney transplant: now, they need to find a kidney.

On November 4, Betsy shared the above on her Facebook page: a photo of her joyful little girl with a simple plea, Help Claire Get a Kidney. The Stannards are asking anyone and everyone who hears their story to consider answering a brief questionnaire through the Nebraska Medical Center, all part of the process to find a potential living donor for Claire.

“It would change her life,” Betsy told me. “A kidney for Claire would mean more energy and overall health throughout her life, freedom from her daily 12-hour dialysis requirements, improved appetite and growth, the ability to travel with her family, and less time in hospitals for surgery, procedures and tests. For anyone considering this, even if you donate one of your kidneys you are not at higher risk of kidney failure. That’s not going to hold you back. You only need one – but she’s only going to get one.”

While promising, the road after transplant will be rocky for Claire and her family. This is major surgery; Claire will need 24/7 care for months after her transplant. Her recovery process will be significant, with a future of anti-rejection medications, clinic visits and tests. There’s always the possibility that a new kidney could fail, whether that be in 30 minutes or 30 years.

But Betsy chooses hope. She chooses positivity. She chooses gratitude.

Since I started at HDR in May of 2023, Betsy has become of my dearest colleagues and friends. She carries an aura of warmth and joy with her, and shares the beauty in her heart with everyone she meets. I see her smile in her daughters; the same light, the same happiness. I have known these past two years what her family has faced, but it wasn’t until we sat down to talk about Claire that I felt Betsy’s sorrow. It was the first time I’ve ever seen her cry, and it was a brief glimpse of her exhaustion, her pain for her baby girl and for all that her family has been through, and of the ongoing weight she carries as a mother who loves her child with every fiber of her being. As a fellow mom, who would turn the world upside down and sacrifice everything within me for my children, I could almost feel how heavy these last two years have had to have been for a woman who gives so much beauty and love to others. I would pray for any child to be healthy and strong, but there is truly no one more deserving of answered prayers than Betsy.

“I’m excited to see a more normal future for our family, hopefully soon,” said Betsy. “I hope Claire goes on and helps other people, whether it’s through understanding about this life that she’s had so far or could she help cure something in the future? I just think that she’s going to take this and do something good with it after she goes through all of this, whether she goes and becomes a doctor or nurse, a teacher, or even an event planner. I can just see her using this to try and help others with their future.”

Just like her momma. I have no idea how she does it – balancing so much, every day, on her incredibly strong shoulders – while never letting anyone know about her challenges. All we see is Betsy’s smile; all we feel is her warmth; and I would argue we could all learn from her inspiring attitude of joy and hope. All her two little girls are learning from their brave, strong Momma, is that no matter what life throws at you, surround yourself with people you love, and do everything you can to find joy every, single day you have.

“Just assume people are doing the absolute best that they can,” said Betsy. “You don’t know what kinds of things they are going through. I try to remember: everybody’s trying their absolute best in the moment with the cards that they’ve been dealt. And with that, I hope people try to help each other out. I am so thankful for everybody in this journey; donations, dropping off meals, just a text means a lot. Just reaching out to be a sounding board goes a really long way. Those may seem like small things, but they mean the world. And I am so grateful and thankful for the people that care for Claire and for our family.”

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CAN YOU HELP CLAIRE FIND A KIDNEY?

Claire’s best chance at a successful transplant is receiving a kidney from a living donor. You may qualify if you are between the ages of 19 and 65 and in relatively good health. The Nebraska Medical Center has a simple screening survey, which takes less than 5 minutes: CLICK HERE.

When taking the survey, please list the intended recipient as Claire J Stannard, DOB 4/29/2024.

The Stannard family also hopes you might consider supporting one of the organizations that have been so important to them in their journey.

Children’s Hospital & Medical Center is the Stannards’ home away from home; from caring for Claire in the NICU for the first four months of her life, through surgeries and check-ups, and now in preparation for an organ transplant. RIGHT NOW you can benefit Children’s as part of their 23rd annual Radiothon with The Kat 103.7. Become a Miracle Maker today by calling (402) 955-7100, texting CARE to 34984 or giving online at TheKat.com.

CRCC IS the Stannard girls’ home away from home; the Connected Roots Care Center is a comprehensive child care and therapy facility providing childcare for kiddos with medical needs, and for their siblings so family’s can stay together. If you’ve ever struggled to find childcare you trust, imagine doing so with a medically fragile child! For 35 years, CRCC has provided individualized care and therapeutic support in a community welcoming to all children. Donations help provide services to as many families as possible, and to keep CRCC flourishing. Learn more and donate here.

Homegrown

Last play of the game, surrounded by 77,000 of the other team’s supporters. Your team is up – but just barely. If they make this field goal, they win… another one, as they are the legendary Notre Dame, ranked 5th in the country. But you feel something deep, you do not need luck, you are on that field at that moment for a reason.

In that moment, Cade Haberman did the same thing he’s been doing since his time under Friday Night Lights in Omaha, Nebraska; he did his job on the field. #51 leapt, and that 6’2, 300-pound frame blocked Notre Dame’s final field goal attempt, securing Northern Illinois’ win in a historic upset for the program. That play became arguably one of the most talked about moments of college football for the coming week. As excited as Huskies fans were in that moment, the communities of Blair, Westside and Gretna, Nebraska might have IMPLODED.

Young men and women like Cade give years of blood, sweat, dedication and sacrifice for moments just like that. And when our hometown kids have moments that become legend, all of us who ‘knew them when’ feel immense pride and joy, like they are representing something bigger than themselves or the game. They represent US.

With that, I present to you the local stars representing our community across the country this fall. Each of them has graciously given me some of their time to share not only the behind-the-scenes tidbits that are part of being a collegiate athlete, but incredible pieces of advice for their youngest fans that extend far beyond the game of football. DISCLAIMER: for 7 years I was blessed to get to know some of these athletes and their families through my work at Westside so YES, I realize there are a lot of Warriors included here. I hope this is the start of an ongoing project to highlight our local collegiate athletes competing in sports as well, so if you’ve got beloved stars you want me and the world to know about from DC West, Papio, Elkhorn South, Bellevue, Ralston, Millard North, WHEREVER – send them my way!

I wonder how many people look at a 311-pound, 6-1 linebacker and think ‘I remember when he trick-or-treated at my house.’ I’m that lady. Arian was a hero in our neighborhood when he played for the powerhouse Gretna Dragons a few years ago. He has never forgotten the power of that hometown feel, telling me about one of the most exciting moments of his collegiate career during a road trip back home last year.

“We went down to Wayne State (Nebraska) for a game,” said Arian. “My family and friends came down to watch the game. I wasn’t starting, however, but four plays in the starting guard got hurt and I ended up playing a full game, in my home state, in front of my people.”

I don’t think a lot of folks fully understand the GRIND collegiate athletes, at all levels, put in for singular moments like that. ‘College life’ stereotypes of late nights and frat parties are non-existent. Every minute is planned, and it must be, to fit everything in.

“Along with classes and homework, I spend hours at practice, travel for games, and work hard to stay in top shape,” said Arian. “My schedule is packed, and it’s tough to find time to relax or hang out with friends. Time management is key because it is expected by both coaches and professors to do well in both school and sports. On top of that, I’m held to a higher standard when I am out in public. It’s not just about representing myself; I also represent my team, coaches, and the entire institution, so there’s always pressure to be on my best behavior.”

When his playing days are over, Arian plans to graduate from Bemidji State with a major in Aquatic Biology and a minor in Aquatic Systems; he wants to work for a fisheries program for any state’s DNR and someday, he hopes to appear on Shark Week. So why do not just enjoy fishing and relaxing now? Less than 1.6% of collegiate football players will make it to the NFL. Why grind, why push, why work countless hours/days/weeks/years for those few moments of glory on the field?

“In every athlete’s life, there comes a moment of doubt, a dark spot where you question your abilities, where you wonder if you’re truly good enough or if you’ll ever make it in your sport,” said Arian. “It’s in these moments that the temptation to quit feels the strongest. But remember this: quitting is not an option. You won’t be able to play the game forever, and if you walk away now, you’ll carry that regret with you for the rest of your life. Push through the doubt, fight through the challenges, and keep going, because every setback is just another step toward your comeback. Embrace the grind, trust your journey, and keep your eyes on the prize. There are only a few guarantees in life: adversity will find you, time will keep moving, and your chance to seize greatness will eventually pass. Make sure that when the final whistle blows, you can say you gave it everything you had, with no regrets and nothing left on the table.”

I hope you check out Arian Garcia and cheer him on this fall, or CLICK HERE to follow him on Twitter. Even if you don’t, read that last paragraph again. THAT is our guy, folks. THAT is Nebraska; maturity, a willingness to work hard for what you want, and inspiring perspective no matter what your challenge, on the field or off.


He just graduated from Harvard Magna Cum Laude in Economics with Psychology secondary. His brother-in-law is Nebraska’s all-time passing leader, Tommy Armstrong, Junior. He could brag ALL DAY about his lengthy resume of athletic, academic and personal achievements, but the first things Kaedyn Odermann wanted to make known in our discussion: that his sister is a state champion soccer player who went on to compete at Nebraska, and that his mom was an All-American basketball player at Minnesota State Moorhead. “I love to flex this!” Kaedyn told me.

You guys: this is literally my life goal. For my children to think I’m cool. I’m cheering for this guy already.

I’m a big fan of Ivy League athletics – Stanford Men’s Gymnastics sent some superstars to Paris over the summer. But here’s the deal: YOU DON’T JUST ‘GET INTO’ HARVARD. It’s HARVARD. Kaedyn Odermann earned his acceptance and graduated from Harvard,through non-stop hard work, dedication, and intelligence.

“No professors give any sort of special treatment (that a lot of people initially associate with college football players), and you are expected to be just as present and perform as well as any other non-athlete student would,” said Kaedyn. “There are no sport specific scholarships. The silver lining is that a lot of courses are competitive, meaning that your grade depends on how well other students perform. Thus, as an athlete who has competitive tendencies, there is some intrinsic motivation. For me, I wanted to get the most out of academics while playing football at a high level. I am extremely thankful to have the opportunity to play football at Harvard, and I have met amazing people in my time here that I would have never met otherwise. It has had a profound effect on who I am as a person and I am excited to see where it continues to lead me.”

Kaedyn has already confronted some difficult hurdles, including a broken hip and resulting surgery after just four games that left him bed-ridden for months. Like any champion (he’s got two Ivy League rings, by the way) he’s viewed those setbacks instead as opportunities; planning to use the extra year of eligibility he gained during injury to transfer to a high-profile business program for post-graduate studies, and always reflecting back on that time to fully appreciate the moments of glory he experiences on the field.

“The most exciting moment for me so far was beating Yale on a last second play my Sophomore year,” said Kaedyn. “A teammate of mine I really looked up to at the time, Kym Wimberly, made an incredible catch to secure the victory. I am extremely excited to host them at Harvard in our last game this season in November, and we will be playing in front of a sold out crowd. The Ivy League Championship usually comes down to that game.”

“To younger athletes, embrace and enjoy the journey along with everything that comes with it!,” said Kaedyn. “Take advantage of every opportunity you get, and never let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. Control what you can control, and as long as you work hard and put your best foot forward, the results will take care of itself. There are always going to be highs and lows in every part of your life, that is part of the learning experience. If you truly embrace the journey, everything can be seen as a lesson. Even the best of the best in the NFL and elsewhere are constantly looking for ways to improve, and have fun doing it.”

CLICK HERE to follow Kaedyn’s football season at Harvard, or CLICK HERE to follow him on Twitter. Selfishly, I hope he also posts some TedxTalks for kids with life advice and ‘why you should always brag about your mom.’ I’d like to add to her resume: All-American basketball player and raised a phenomenal young man.

So you grow up with a Dad who’s basically a football legend in the state of Nebraska, who has become a household name to a new generation through sports broadcasting. And your Mom was a three-year letter winner for the Husker soccer team in the 1990s and played for Team Canada in the 1999 Women’s World Cup. And your grandpa was a groundbreaking coach for the University of Nebraska – Omaha, the first full-time black faculty member at the institution. And your stepmother is a beloved principal at your high school, respected and admired by thousands of students and all of your teachers.

It’s like an after school special storyling for the kid who’s cocky, takes life for granted, and waits for his silver platter of opportunities to be brought to him. Caleb Benning is the exact opposite of every part of that sentence. Everything GOOD from each of the adults who helped shape him has funneled into an outstanding young man and now collegiate athlete for the University of Nebraska.

“Whatever you are trying to do in life or accomplish, work as hard as you possibly can at it, as often as you can, and the rest will sort itself out,” Caleb told me this fall. I first met Caleb during my time as Communications Director at Westside Community Schools. Even as an underclassmen, Caleb was a clear leader in every facet of life at Westside High; in academics, in volunteer work, in supporting school causes, and in every athletic endeavor he tried out for. Always polite and respectful, always the first to step up and lead the way for others. I remember specifically in the summer of 2022, my staff and I organized and hosted our first Westside Back To School Carnival, a huge undertaking for our entire district and community. Caleb and a handful of his Westside Warriors teammates (a few included in this story!) promoted our event, showed up in their football uniforms to hang out with the kids who idolized them, and stayed the entire 4-hours playing catch with students and even volunteering for our dunk tank. From my limited ‘outside looking in’ perspective, Caleb has always seemed to be a young man who GETS it, that this opportunity to wear a jersey and play in the spotlight at Phelps Field or Memorial Stadium is a chance to make an impact and serve others.

“I’m most excited about being able to represent my family IN FRONT of my family,” said Caleb, talking about his first year playing for the Nebraska Cornhuskers this season. “To be able to have the people that have supported me the most in my life, right next to me, is awesome. I know a lot of guys are very grateful to represent their home state and play for Nebraska, but I want to be one of the few that has been able to make it to Nebraska, play and contribute, and eventually make it to the NFL.”

CLICK HERE to follow Caleb’s season at Nebraska! You can also CLICK HERE to follow him on Twitter.

Right around the time Mike Lucas was hired as Superintendent of Westside Community Schools, my son Easton was discovering his LOVE of football. At 9 years old, he would watch replays of games on the Big 10 network. He would ask his Dad questions about play calling and rules of the game. And he begged me to take him to ‘Mom’s work’ to see where the big boys played football. When I shared this with Dr. Lucas, he very graciously offered to let Easton be his ‘special assistant’ at a Friday night football game on the sidelines. I remember three players in particular took time to give Easton fist bumps and make him feel special: Bo Lucas, Cade Haberman, and Cole Payton. They also spoke at elementary schools about the importance of earning good grades and being good teammates. They were dominant student athletes, winning the first state football championship in 28 years and resulting D1 offers across the country. When Cole, one of the most highly touted players to come out of Nebraska that year committed to the NDSU Bison, I swear, the entire state of North Dakota shut down on National Signing Day in anticipation; and yet the then 18-year old remained grateful and humble with every request he received.

“There’s no better feeling than accomplishing the goals my teammates and I have worked so hard for,” Cole told me recently. “Also, the relationships I’ve built through college football are so special and will last forever. Being a college athlete is a full-time job. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. But it’s also been one of the most rewarding.”

In his role as back-up quarterback at North Dakota State, Cole has played a key role in his team’s success, including his journey on their path to winning the NCAA Division 2 National Championship in 2021. He’s also an exceptional student, earning several academic honors in his conference.

“One piece of advice would be to buy in and trust the process from day one,” said Cole. “The more you put in the more you get out. And don’t get discouraged if you don’t see results right away because good things take time.”

Cole is majoring in Sports Management but hopes to keep playing football as long as possible. Ironically, as I am writing this, another ‘kid from Omaha’ who played football for a D2 school just scored a field goal in the NFL: Greg Zuerlein. And remember North Platte’s Danny Woodhead who played 10-years in the NFL? Chadron State. I’d get your autograph from Cole now before he moves on to the big time – and I have no doubt he’d kindly provide it, no questions asked.

CLICK HERE to follow Cole’s season at North Dakota State, and CLICK HERE to follow Cole on Twitter!

One of the best things about our state and community is, hands down, our incredible people. Throughout my life and career I have been so blessed to work with folks who constantly inspire me through their words and actions; it’s one of the reasons I feel so compelled to write and tell stories. In my time working for Westside, I met and worked with one of THE BEST families in the Midwest, the Habermans. Dad Justin is a longtime football and track coach, now the Varsity Head Coach of the Gretna East Griffins. What I have so respected in his leadership and approach is that it has never just been about sports (although he’s darn good at that!); Coach Haberman wants to nurture and mold outstanding young men. They volunteer throughout the communities where they play. They attend camps and activities to mentor younger athletes. They bring get-well baskets to fellow student athletes – even at other schools – who are injured on the field. Life lessons like these have a profound impact on the kids involved: case in point, the ‘kid’ who became the star of the college football world a few weeks back, 22-year old Cade Haberman, one of the captains of the Northern Illinois Huskies.

“Going into the game, we weren’t given much of a chance. We were 28-point underdogs and all we heard about were the amount of four and five stars on their roster,” Cade told me recently. “On Notre Dame’s first extra-point attempt, I got a lot of push but didn’t quite block it (I didn’t realize how close I was to blocking it until I watched the film). The push on the first extra point gave me a lot of confidence going into Notre Dame’s first field goal attempt before the half. Jogging onto the field our defensive end, and good friend of mine, Jallonie Williams asked me, “Are we going after this?” I responded, “Absolutely!” The next thing I know I feel a sting, as if I was bit by something, and then I realized I blocked the kick. Going into the locker room I was so juiced up! Fast forward to the end of the game, when Notre Dame came onto the field to attempt the field goal as time expired, my position coach called my number to go get this one. That final play felt like it took two minutes, but I felt that same sting from the earlier kick and the party was on! I could hear the faint cheers all the way from the 402!”

Cade’s game-winning heroics won him several more awards to add to an already impressive athletic resume and trophy case. But when asked for his list of achievements, he lists several non-sports things you might not expect: he’s been on the Leadership Council for two years. He leads his team bible study and is an active member of Athletes in Action. He’s also a volunteer (and has been for years) with All-Play, working with younger athletes with disabilities. I still remember attending a school assembly where Cade and his fellow Westside football teammates spoke after winning the state championship; instead of talking about football, Cade used that opportunity to tell hundreds of kids about the importance of good grades, working hard, and always being a good teammate to everyone around you.

“Give back to your community. There are so many people out there who look up to you; set the right example and inspire the dream,” said Cade. “My advice to kids now: handle your school work, take really good notes, because eventually, unfortunately, football will end but your education can never be taken from you. And to younger athletes, enjoy Friday Night Lights. There is truly nothing like it. And if you find yourself in the position where you are being recruited, make your decision based off of relationships with coaches. Don’t chase logos and brands, they mean nothing.”

This may be the start of the playbook for a future Coach Haberman; Cade hopes to follow in his Dad’s coaching footsteps at the college level. Every day, he’s up for 6am meetings, 8am practices, 10am weight training, classes from 11am to 4pm. He’s traveling for games, competing every Saturday and trying to make an impact off the field every free hour he gets. But as grueling as that schedule is, he wants to continue the family business and be around the game for the rest of his life, sharing the same inspiring lessons that impacted him.

“In today’s culture you see people transferring after one good season, ” Cade said in his post-game press conference after the Notre Dame victory. “We truly love each other. We love playing with each other. Our coaches love us. They care about relationships here. It shows.”

That’s how you recruit the best to play for you and represent your program. That’s how you inspire a new generation of players and leaders who will follow. And that’s how you show the country what incredible people come from Nebraska. CLICK HERE to follow Cade’s senior season at Northern Illinois, and CLICK HERE to follow him on Twitter!

I’ve mentored and worked with many young women over the last 25 years; KETV interns, Miss Nebraska contestants and titleholders, amateur athletes and students. One of the most articulate, smart, and driven I’ve ever met is Omaha native, engineering student and now professional football player Erin Mardi. She made history in high school, only the second female in Nebraska to win a football state championship. She inspired and mentored other female students, earning the respect of her male teammates right along with that Varsity jersey and championship ring her senior year.

“To everyone who’s seen my journey at Westside, I’m still kicking!” Erin told me recently. “I’m 19 in September and I’ve played since I was 7 years old. That makes 11 years and 12 seasons. I hope that if anything is to be taken away from my story, it’s that you just have to stay committed to what you enjoy. It doesn’t have to be football, but if you genuinely enjoy what you’re doing then follow it until you absolutely can’t anymore.”

Erin is doing exactly that; along with pursuing an engineering degree at South Dakota Mines, she has also made the Nebraska Pride women’s professional football team roster for two seasons, winning a national championship this year in the Women’s Football Alliance.

“Pro football is pretty tough,” said Erin, who plays wide receiver, corner back, and gunner on special teams. “We are in a unique situation with the WFA since we pay to play and we have to balance school or work with travel and other things. We don’t have as much time to practice so we have to give every bit of focus and effort when we can. It’s also pretty taxing on us with the Pride since most of us play both sides of the ball every game. I enjoy every ache and pain though!”

In their final playoff game to make the national championship, Erin was a key player who contributed to the team’s victory over Oklahoma City, with several punt/kickoff tackles and a muffed punt recovery. With that win, Nebraska Pride became only the second team to beat OKC at home since the team’s creation in 2015.

“I have one more guaranteed season in me before I focus on internships and work stuff,” said Erin. “I’m currently studying to get a degree in Mining Engineering at SDSM&T, so I’m really digging (pun intended) into that. Hopefully when I finish schooling I can get a job close to Omaha to continue playing with the Pride on top of work. We’ll have to see where life takes me.”

Erin – I now work at HDR, a professional services firm with a team of world class engineers. I believe THIS is what they call a full circle moment – let life bring you to HDR where I can continue sharing your inspiring stories! In the meantime for everyone reading this, click here to follow Erin’s success on and off the field, and I hope you’ll consider supporting her team, Nebraska Pride, by attending a game to cheer Erin on next season!!

Little story, nothing to do with football. When I was preparing to compete for Mrs. American, I was also recruiting potential sponsors to help me with expenses. One of the families who generously offered their support was the Rezac family of Omaha, specifically, DJ and Lisa, and their business, KB Building Services. A few short weeks later, after a trip to the ER, two long weeks bedbound and a resulting diagnosis of vestibular neuritis and chronic migraines, it became clear I would not physically be able to make the trip to Las Vegas to represent my state at this prestigious competition. Embarrassed and not a little ashamed that I was too weak to just ‘fight through’, I began contacting each of my sponsors to let them know and refund their money. DJ and Lisa responded immediately: “We don’t want it back. We invest in PEOPLE and believe in you.”

Guys. I can’t tell you how much that kind of message means, especially when you are at your lowest. And that generosity, kindness and belief in the power of community is something DJ and Lisa Rezac have embraced and demonstrated for years in the Omaha area, and taught their children. Their daughter Carly was a key figure in creating Westside High School Dance Marathon, the first of it’s kind for high schools which now raises tens of thousands of dollars annually for Children’s Hospital and Medical Center; Carly now does the same at the University of Arizona. Three of the Rezac boys used their status as some of our state’s most dominant high school athletes to impact causes throughout the Omaha area, speaking at schools, volunteering for district fundraisers, participating with Special Olympics and WE-Side Unified; they are now active with organizations like Heartland Family Service League and Youth Frontiers. Their family photos are a beautiful reflection of the Rezacs’ hearts, as they opened their home to a fellow teammate in 7th grade to move in with them and become part of their family.

And back to that part about sports dominance: the name REZAC in District 66 and throughout the Omaha area is synonymous with SPORTS LEGACY. DJ was one of the most prolific athletes to come out of Westside High School, a multi-sport athlete and member of both the Sports and Alumni Hall of Fames. Of the five Rezac children, THREE are collegiate athletes, FOUR when you include a guy they consider a son and brother, JQ Osler. And in 2023, there were no bigger names in high school sports than Anthony and Teddy Rezac. Quarterback for the back-to-back state champion Warriors (who have since continued a historic 24 game winning streak), Anthony was named the 2023-2024 Nebraska Gatorade Player of the Year and heavily recruited by programs all over the country. Teddy was rated as a 3-star recruit, ranked in the Top 100 national players in multiple categories by several sports outlets. The twin brothers chose Notre Dame.

“It’s got to be the academics and athletics,” Anthony told the Irish Sports Daily shortly after he committed. “The combo of those two is just unbeatable. And while we both knew how hard it was to go Division 1, going to the same school wasn’t necessarily always in the plan, but working out like that, it’s pretty cool and I’m grateful for it.”

Fast forward 9-months, and Anthony is deep in the grind of what it takes to be a collegiate athlete; and grateful for every moment.

“Everyone knows college athletes have busy schedules, but something I don’t think a lot of people take into account is the amount of studying you have to do,” said Anthony, a red-shirt quarterback this year for the Irish. “For your classes, for your sport and position, in addition to the coach led stuff. You’re watching film and going over game plans pretty much every night, on top of the workouts, practices, and meetings you have at the facilities.”

Teddy has already been called upon as a true freshman to contribute to Notre Dame’s success, making his debut on September 15 against Purdue.

“I’d say what I’m most excited about this year at Notre Dame is just learning how to play linebacker, and grow my skills a ton,” said Teddy. “Being a college athlete is awesome, and also isn’t the most fun sometimes. It’s a lot of meetings, practices, lifts, etc. It’s very time consuming, and especially here, where the academic side is difficult.”

And yet as busy as both young men are, they are still finding ways to follow through on what their family has ingrained in them: kindness and service to others.

“I am happy to announce that I’ve created a partnership with the Boys & Girls Club of St. Joseph in South Bend, Indiana,” both brothers shared on social media this month. “I will be providing 2 tickets to every home Notre Dame Football game to a parent/child. I remember going to Nebraska football games as a child and recognize how blessed we were going to games and with the current state of NIL and our family mission of Serving Others this is the first thing we would like to give back towards and serve others. Go Boys & Girls Club. Dream Big & HERE COME THE IRISH!”

To all who admire Anthony and Teddy for their athleticism or character, their advice to others is simple and applicable both on and off the field.

“My advice for younger athletes is a quote that I heard a few years back and is something I think about a lot. Comparison is the thief of joy. You’ve got to focus on yourself and how you’re doing, not as much on other people,” said Anthony.

“My advice would be to look at each day as an opportunity to get better, and don’t compare yourself to others,” said Teddy. “Some guys get offers their freshman season, and some their senior year. Everyone’s journey is different.”

CLICK HERE to follow Anthony on Instagram; CLICK HERE to follow him on Twitter.

CLICK HERE to follow Teddy on Instagram; CLICK HERE to follow him on Twitter.

BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE! I mentioned THREE of the Rezac men currently play for D1 football programs. Cue eldest brother Dominic Rezac, ALSO an NSAA State Champion, ALSO a highly touted college recruit, now playing for the Vanderbilt Commodores. Dominic is juggling the same rigorous demands on his body and time as described by Teddy and Anthony, and he is also a double major at one of the most taxing private academic institutions in the country.

“It’s one of the hardest things I’ve done, but also the most rewarding,” Dominic told me recently. He has also become a leader in the still-evolving world of NIL opportunities for college athletes. Sports outlets like CollegeNetWorth.com describe Dominic as follows: ‘His athletic talent, combined with strategic branding, positions him well for future financial opportunities. The combination of his on-field skills and off-field marketability makes him a notable figure in college football.’

Smart – and still focused on the things that matter, messages he continues to share with younger athletes (and maybe, his ‘little’ brothers’.)

“Enjoy every minute of your journey and stay in the moment,” said Dominic. “Being able to play sports, no matter the level, is a privilege and creates some relationships that will stand long after your done playing.”

CLICK HERE to follow Dominic on Twitter, and CLICK HERE to learn more about partner/sponsor opportunities!

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When you tune in to watch these hometown college athletes each week, you may also notice a few local faces calling their games for sports fans across the country. I’m one of the goobers who proudly reminds my boys ‘see him?!? That’s my friend! I know him!’

I don’t think they believe me.

Kevin Kugler is a household name for many sports fans, and nothing short of a legend for those in Nebraska. From Unsportsmanlike Conduct to Big Red Wrap Up, covering every major sport from college to the pros; he’s travelled the world to bring five Olympic Games to sports fans; and yet Kevin Kugler is still that hilarious and caring guy from Omaha who never forgets where he came from. As impressive as his resume is, including winning Nebraska Sportscaster of the Year NINE times, I don’t have enough blog space to share what a great guy Kevin is. (For example – him taking the time to be part of this blog in the middle of a non-stop NFL schedule!) He mentors future broadcast journalists who reach out to him for advice. He will be the first to send a text or message of support or kind words. When I asked him a few years back to record a ‘good luck’ message for my son’s football team heading into the championships, he did so – from the Fox NFL booth, minutes before a big game, with Mark Sanchez right next to him cheering on our Dragons.

“Everyone has a path, but few of them start from Nebraska to get to the highest levels of broadcasting.  I’m extremely fortunate that mine has taken me to where I get to be in an NFL TV booth every week,” said Kevin. “I really do credit being raised here to being able to get along with almost anyone in any situation.  I can live anywhere in the USA that I choose to live, but my family is still in Omaha. My girls were raised in Omaha, schooled in Omaha; it’s the heart of so much that mattered to me as a kid, as an adult, and as a parent and husband.”

“I get excited about the games!” Kevin told me. “We get the chance every week to see something remarkable, and the best thing is, we never know what that remarkable accomplishment might be.  Whether it be an individual or a team accomplishment, I get the best seat in the house to narrate those moments. It’s truly the thrill of my professional lifetime to be able to do that. Imagine being there for a game winning Hail Mary, or a record setting field goal to clinch a playoff berth. That’s what I get to do every single week, and they pay me to do that!  What an amazing thing to call a ‘job!'”

I also asked Kevin the same question I asked the collegiate athletes featured in this article; what would he tell young broadcasters who dream about following in his footsteps?

“My advice is always to never say no. Take any opportunity that comes your way when you are starting out,” said Kevin. “Be ready to make VERY little money at the beginning of the career, but if you get the bug, it’s hard to stop doing it. My path was a longer road than some.. I didn’t have any connections to the industry before deciding to go this route. And more than once, I thought I was going to have to quit and do something else. But I’m very happy that I stayed with it, battled, and continue to get the chance to do something that I love. That’s really the biggest key to a professional life: find something you enjoy, and do it!”

As a fellow parent, I’d be remiss if I didn’t write about the one thing I think Kevin is more passionate about than sports: his family. Waiting for him after every road trip, national championship or Olympic games are three amazing women (one of whom has become very close with our family, Kevin’s outstanding daughter, Cassidy.) I love to remind folks of this every time they sit down to enjoy a big game, particularly on days like the Friday after Thanksgiving, or bowl games around the holidays… sports guys miss everything to bring YOU those games. Yet so often, their families are their biggest cheerleaders supporting every moment of those dreams.

“I’d share the same advice that I share with young aspiring broadcasters, and something that ISN’T brought up in J-school,” said Kevin. “If you are someone who plans to have a personal life, make sure your significant other understands what they are getting into with this career. I’ve missed Thanksgivings, I’ve missed performances; games are on nights and weekends. In other words, games are EXACTLY when your friends want to go out to a bar, or a movie, or a show. Make sure you find someone who is willing to be flexible and understands that the cost of doing this business can, at times, be a normal social life. I got lucky, and married a coach’s daughter. I highly recommend that!”

And what does our hometown guy tell the sports world about home in Omaha, Nebraska?

 “I tell them as little as possible. I don’t want them to move here,” joked Kevin. “But seriously, I brag up Omaha to anyone who asks. Great food scene, underrated music scene, terrific place to raise a family and build a life. If that’s something that interests people (and I believe everyone wants a place to raise a family and build a life), they’re going to hear about it from me!”

Simply THE BEST. Omaha, and the sports superstar representing us. CLICK HERE to follow Kevin on Twitter this season!

“Sports are fun. So covering sports should be, too. My hope is to be entertaining and informative, and in that order. With so many choices on the dial, you have to give people a reason to watch. My goal is to do just that, providing sports coverage in a uniquely entertaining way, without compromising my values.”

I found that in the KETV archives, a quote from my friend Matt dating back 15-20 years. That’s how long ago this New York guy turned Colorado Buffalo took a job in Omaha and turned SPORTS into appointment TV thousands watched because it was side-splitting, tears-running-down-your-face hilarious.

Matt Schick may not have started out as a native Nebraskan, but we adopted him quick, and it became permanent when he married his longtime girlfriend and Lincoln native, Kelly.

“The city, the people, the kindness and the culture; never felt more welcomed by any community,” Matt told me recently. “The fact that I went to the University of Colorado and still call Nebraska home tells you something!”

And if Nebraska made an impact on Matt, he CERTAINLY left his mark here.

First – ignore the anchor girl. Second – I STILL DIE LAUGHING. The story that all of Husker Nation was talking about. Never before had I seen impact like this as a young journalist; stores began selling ‘IN CARL WE TRUST’, and ‘CARLFENSE’ shirts. And years later, when Coach Carl Pelini was hired by Florida Atlantic, the university produced their own line of shirts using the same sayings.

You guys – Matt created stories like this ALL OF THE TIME, on and off camera. Interviewing Elmo about Nebraska Football when Sesame Street Live was on tour in Omaha. Convincing Nebraska Athletics to let a few Huskers play Mario Kart on the 117-foot high big screen at Memorial Stadium. Putting our Sunday night co-ed softball score on the sports ticker during newscasts (sorry, Vonn and Rose Ann – that really happened.) Nearly getting our KETV trio of misfits (myself, Matt and Owen Lei) kicked out of the Omaha Press Club show because we were always laughing at something Matt did. His dedication to making sports fun caught the eye of ESPN, and in 2012, Matt was named to the ESPNU anchor team

“Try everything,” said Matt. “If you want to do television, dabble in radio. If your dream is to write about sports, get used to being in front of the camera. Every job now touches every aspect of media, so don’t paint yourself in a career corner. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Grow a thick skin; you will be criticized, especially in the sports arena where everyone will think you hate their team. And always question who is saying what, and why they might be saying it. Does that person with that opinion about that team work for a company that has a stake in one conference over another? As Ted Lasso says, ‘be curious, not judgmental.'”

Finally (although I could write a novel here just on Schick Shenanigans), Matt is a man of deep faith. What so admire and respect is he and Kelly share that passion, not by trying to force it upon others, but by inspiring others through their own actions and lifestyle. I have never heard Matt say a bad thing about someone else. He finds joy in making people laugh and in lifting up others (especially his four kids and Kelly.) As I covered the Von Maur shootings in 2007, it was Matt who called my cell to see if he could bring my partner and I some food or anything we might need. I specifically remember a different moment in our newsroom when a colleague was facing some medical challenges; after the newscast when most of the crew had left, Matt gathered that coworker and a few others in a small group prayer for that teammate’s health and healing.

When I asked him to contribute to my little blog, Matt said this on his career: “I get excited about the unknowns: how certain teams will fair, what the biggest stories will be, which little-known college players will emerge and leave their fingerprints on the season.”

I would argue Matt Schick, the ‘little-known guy from Colorado’ left his fingerprints on Omaha and Nebraska, and we’re all better for it.

CLICK HERE to follow Matt on Twitter, or CLICK HERE to follow him on Instagram. And I DARE YOU not to laugh.

I’ve been thinking about kicking up my blog again for years. It’s taken me more than 3 weeks to put this article together. Sometimes I wish I was just content coming home, gardening, cooking and freaking NOT committing to something else, then another, then another. But here’s why I love to tell stories: I was camped out Omaha’s Corner Kick to write while my son was at soccer practice. ESPN was covering Northern Illinois, and how they are crushing all expectations this season. I heard a guy nearby say, “NIU?!?! What the hell?” And unable to help myself, I swiveled and said, “did you see that play a few weeks ago where the kid blocked the kick that won NIU the game? That was a local guy from Blair. He played high school ball here in Omaha and now plays for Northern Illinois.” That guy and his friends were then all ears. Who?? Which one?? What’s his name?? Where did he go to school?

Maybe they just appeased me. But I’d like to think their reaction is how ALL of us feel in Nebraska when one of our homegrown people represents us in a great pursuit. Nebraska nice, Nebraska strong, Nebraska proud.

Keep at it, fellas (and Erin!) We are all rooting for you.

Thank you for reading! And thank you to Spencer Petersen with American Family Insurance for sponsoring this post!

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Now share your comments below – who has inspired you the most? Who did I forget? And what student athletes would you love to see featured this winter or next spring?

Amanda’s Army

Work has been challenging of late. Frustrating, overwhelming, personal.

The second I walk through my door, it doesn’t matter. I hear ‘MOMMY!’ and see two smiling boys who do not care who said what, who thinks what, or what I do for my job. They are my why – they are my respite – they are my life. They remind me to take a breath and focus, and they fill my cup back up.

PERSPECTIVE. What if the frustrating, the overwhelming, the personal… never stopped? What if those challenges engulfed you 24/7… and kept on coming, one after the other?

My challenges are nothing. There are people around us who are true superheroes, overcoming unbelievable circumstances with poise, resolve, positive attitude and sheer goodness.

Cue Amanda Reinert.

Parents’ Night at my sons’ school last year.. I was sitting in Evan’s classroom, waiting for the teacher to begin, and I noticed another mom in the room. ‘Holy shit – that’s Amanda Reinert!’ I quickly scanned the class list to confirm – sure enough, Amanda’s daughter Ava was in Evan’s class.

The beauty of being in the ‘pageant world’ – you meet and learn about some INCREDIBLE women. Amanda was crowned Mrs. Nebraska 2014, and later, Mrs. USA Universal 2017. That’s a BIG DEAL. I remember thinking to myself ‘I wonder what she’s like? And what is she doing now?’

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The beauty, the smile, the confidence all hide a disturbing story in Amanda’s past. When she was just 2 years old, her grandfather began sexually abusing her. No one knew for years, until at 6 years old, Amanda drew a detailed picture of genitals. Police were contacted, the case went to court, and a traumatized little girl was forced to sit with lawyers and a judge, across a table from her grandfather, asked to describe everything that was happening to her.

“In that moment, I refused to speak or testify,” remembers Amanda. “Because of that, charges were dropped, and he was never punished for what he did to me.”

Unimaginably, Amanda was targeted again a few years later at 11 years old.

“I was on a camping trip with my grandma, my cousin and a couple who were friends with my grandma,” recalls Amanda. “We are all sleeping in a giant tent. I awoke to find the husband <the friend of my grandma> on top of me with his hands over my mouth.”

“I didn’t share my story of sexual abuse until after I was married,” says Amanda. “I lived my life in shame and feeling extremely isolated and alone. I endured some extremely rough years through high school, and one day, I decided I wouldn’t do it anymore.”

Amanda signed up to compete for Mrs. Nebraska – and won – with the mission of spreading awareness of childhood sexual assault and forming a support network for survivors. She became a certified facilitator with Darkness to Light, a national organization committed to the education, awareness and prevention of child sexual abuse. She also became a spokesperson for the LFS RSafe® program, one of the largest child sexual abuse treatment programs in the Midwest.

Click here to watch more of Amanda’s story, shared by KETV’s Camila Orti.

“There are thousands of other survivors out there like me,” says Amanda. “I want them to know they are not alone. I want parents of victims to know that there is hope. I want to educate parents on how to prevent this from happening to their children. I used that microphone <as Mrs. Nebraska> to reach as many people as I possibly could to spread the messages of support to survivors, hope for victims and education to families.”

That mission became even more personal for Amanda when she became a parent herself.

Ava Michelle Reinert was born October 24, 2012. Amanda’s jam-packed photo albums on Facebook are titled ‘Just The Beginning!’, ‘I Love My Life!’, ‘This Will Be The Best Year Yet!’

In 2016, Amanda was crowned Mrs. Nebraska USA Universal. Pictures taken that fall with Ava and husband, Brady, show a seemingly perfect family with the world at their fingertips. They had no idea how much everything would change in just a few short months.

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Just weeks after performing in her Pre-School holiday program, Ava rolled her ankle while playing at the Omaha Children’s Museum. It didn’t heal.

“<Doctors> discovered compression fractures, which were odd, but they gave us a boot and sent us on our way,” remembers Amanda. “About a week later, she started complaining of severe back pain, and within a few days, she couldn’t stand, walk, or sit at all. She was bed-ridden within another week. Over the next 10 weeks, Ava endured hundreds of blood tests, x-rays, appointments, MRI’s and bone scans. No one could tell us what was wrong. We even had a doctor tell us ‘maybe she is faking it.’ She was poked more times than we could even begin to count; she was bruised and bloody and used to scream ‘Mommy, please make them stop, Daddy, please don’t let them do this to me.'”

Amanda took this picture on March 23, 2017. Ava couldn’t stand or walk; she was in constant pain, sick and exhausted. Amanda and Brady struggled whether or not to use their Disney on Ice tickets they had previously purchased for Ava.

“We decided she should be allowed to have a couple of hours of relief and enjoyment and we took her,” remembers Amanda. “She was in so much pain and fighting through it to enjoy the magic of the show. I remember looking at her smile and wondering it we’d ever see it again.”

Ava was misdiagnosed with Brittle Bone Disease; a 48-hour infusion at Children’s Hospital & Medical Center made her even more sick. Doctors admitted Ava to the hospital to conduct more tests. She was diagnosed with Leukemia on March 27, 2017.

Ava immediately began chemotherapy and a brutal 800 days of treatment.

“There were MANY days where I believed she may not make it,” remembers Amanda. “One of them was when she started chemotherapy and became immunocompromised. Out of nowhere she spiked a 105-degree fever and became unresponsive. Within moments, we had five or six nurses and two doctors in our room. The situation became critical very quickly; when a child is on chemotherapy the most ‘insignificant’ infection can be deadly, and we did not know what was wrong with her. She was like this for about 12 hours, the scariest 12 hours of my life. They never did figure out what caused it but within 72 hours she was back to normal.”

Ava became known at home and at the hospital for her inspiring resilience, astounding for anyone facing grueling treatments, let alone a little girl.

“Ava was ALWAYS the strongest one in the room. She never complained – ever,” says Amanda. “She had to take five liquid medications three times a day that were terrifyingly awful in taste (I tried them.) She rarely cried and was always so strong. The only time I ever saw her break was when we had to shave her head. Her hair hung on longer than we had expected and one morning, she woke up and we all knew it was time. That night, her begging screams and her scared face are something I will never forget. Even reliving that night to share this story brings tears to my eyes.”

Slowly, Ava began to improve. She celebrated her 5th Birthday in true Princess fashion. She slid down the jumbo tube slide with her mom at Vala’s Pumpkin Patch that fall. She opened presents on her Dad’s lap on Christmas morning. And she inspired hundreds of family members, friends and loves ones with her smiles and fight despite all odds.

“Ava <also> underwent 12 months of physical therapy to relearn to stand, walk, run and climb stairs,” remembers Amanda. “That was also very difficult. We discovered Leukemia was hollowing her bones; that is why we were misdiagnosed with Brittle Bone Disease. She had seven compression fractures in her vertebrae because of the weakness in her bones that ultimately prevented her from walking or standing.”

As Ava’s hair grew back and she prepared for Kindergarten, Amanda once again used her frustration and anger to fuel a mission… to battle the disease that nearly stole her daughter.

“Everyone knows cancer is terrible and that childhood cancer is unthinkable, “says Amanda. “What they don’t know is that we literally had to poison and nearly kill our baby to save her. Treatments today are TERRIBLE and they have not improved in more than 20 years. I cannot accept that. Our family will fight and push until there is a better way; no child should have to fight in the way that Ava fought.”

Amanda called upon Ava’s hundreds of supporters to take action, forming Ava’s Army.

T-Shirts. Hash tags across social media. Fundraisers. Ava’s Army was seen across Omaha and Gretna, from gyms to schools, among family members and Amanda’s pageant sisters. And in December of 2019, Amanda hosted her first Sugarplum Ball, a formal dinner, auction and gala. Little girls (and big girls!) dressed up like real-life princesses for a night of glitter, fun and love for one another.

“Ava’s Army exists to raise money to fund the fight against pediatric Leukemia. 100% of what we raise goes to research,” says Amanda, who quickly notes Ava’s fight is far from over, even though, thankfully, she is now in remission. “People see Ava and they think ‘she’s good, she’s done.’ She’s not. Because of the poisonous and awful things we did to her, she will have a lifetime of repercussions. Chemotherapy melted all of her 6-year molars and they were pulled out. She suffers from neuropathy from chemotherapy damage. She is five times more likely to have breast cancer later in life or other secondary cancers. She is likely infertile from treatment. Heart problems, kidney problems, liver problems, learning disabilities, bone issues, sleeping issues – the list of things that children who ‘survive’ a cancer battle is unthinkable, and people have no idea. We will continue to raise money, raise awareness and fight for kids like Ava until there is a better way.”

To date, Ava’s Army has raised more than $55,000 with a goal to hit $100,000 by the end of 2021. More than 2,500 people follow them across social media (click here!) to see how they are constantly working to give back to places like Children’s Hospital & Medical Center – and the young patients there.

And by the time sweet Ava – smart, wise beyond her years, kind and caring – joined my Evan’s class at school, I followed her journey as the little girl who ‘had’ cancer, and I followed Amanda’s story, thinking of her as the strong, brave mother-turned BEST room parent ever. (Seriously – creative, always on top of events for our teacher and our class, that Mom you see on Pinterest who ALWAYS has her act together.. I BOW DOWN, AMANDA!) The Reinert family had built a new home, Ava was starting first grade and they were expecting a new baby!

Photo courtesy Megan Michael Photography

Bennett Joseph Reinert arrived September 12, 2019, and was diagnosed with Down Syndrome immediately after birth.

“Bennett is perfect!” says Amanda. “But I’m ashamed to admit it took me about six months to accept his perfection. We did not know he had Down Syndrome until he was born. It hit me like a semi-truck.”

Months earlier, Ava had just recovered from another medical setback: a vicious dog attack that sent her back to the hospital. The family had just moved to a new home; Ava was starting at a new school. Amanda had been planning this massive fundraiser gala with thousands of dollars in donor support on the line, all while still advocating for sexual assault survivors by sharing her powerful, yet exhausting personal story. And once again, the Reinert family was shaken with unexpected news and an overwhelming, unknown future.

“I felt like we couldn’t survive or endure anymore,” says Amanda. “I did not have the energy to stand back up. When they told me he had Down Syndrome, all of the worst case scenarios came to me – children and adolescents with Down Syndrome are between 10 and 30 times more likely to develop leukemia. After Bennett was born, we went through dozens of doctors’ appointments to check his ears, eyes, heart, digestive system, cognitive abilities, and more. It was like reliving Ava’s diagnosis all over again. I couldn’t function.”

As the COVID-19 pandemic shut down the world.. the Reinerts isolated together at home, learned from each other, and grew closer as an extraordinary family of four. Just as his big sister Ava had been a light for her parents in what seemed the worst of times, so, too, was their new little man with the larger than life smile.

“Anyone that meets him will tell you he is a miracle,” says Amanda. “He is 19 months old and has no health complications (thank God) besides mild hearing loss, which he wears hearing aids for. He is developing cognitively and physically ahead of where he should be and he is thriving in a big way. He is a miracle to our family and I know in my heart he will change the world.”

The Reinerts are now active members of the Down Syndrome Alliance of the Midlands (Bennett was their cover model for the 2020 Annual Report!) They proactively and positively celebrate and share all of Bennetts ABILITIES rather than his disabilities – he’s a ladies man – he’s a cuddler who loves to laugh – HE NEVER. STOPS. SMILING.

That last part…. maybe we could all learn something from Bennett. From his sister, Ava. From their proud Daddy. And from their amazing momma, Amanda, who NEVER. EVER. QUITS.

“I have had to learn that you can’t be negative or weighed down by things you can’t control,” says Amanda. “You can’t control other people, their actions, the world, a pandemic. You can control YOU.”

These days, Ava is a BUSY 2nd grader who excels in school, competes in cheerleading, and will represent Nebraska at the national Princess of America pageant in July. Bennett recently realized how much he LOVES climbing, and he adores being outside. Brady and Amanda recently celebrated their 10th wedding anniversary in Jamaica. And Amanda just started a new business – Pink & Plaid Sleepover Parties. (Click here to learn more!)

“We want to bring happiness into a world that can be stressful and overwhelming,” says Amanda. “We want to see kids smiling and laughing and making magical memories, AND we want to help parents sit back and enjoy those moments as well.”

Pink & Plaid provides snacks, decorations, activities, food, party favors, clean up, everything – with Amanda as key organizer, remembering the importance of every special moment a family can celebrate together.

“We are so thankful (and I mean genuinely, to our cores, thankful) that our babies are still alive and thriving,” says Amanda. “We have family, we have our home, we have jobs, and we have our health – we celebrate that. We celebrate that as much as we can. We still have rough days, of course, but we are so thankful for one another and to have our babies. Nothing else really matters.”

My challenge to anyone reading this: join AMANDA’S ARMY.

Be grateful. Celebrate life and happiness. Exude positivity. Stay hopeful.

“Don’t let things you can’t control take away your happiness. You can control the messages and vibes you send into the world.”

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INSPIRED BY AMANDA’S STORY? YOU CAN HELP!

The 2nd Annual Superplum Ball for Ava’s Army will take place Saturday December 11 in Omaha! Tickets are available now for children, adults, businesses and sponsors! CLICK HERE for more information!

You can also follow Ava’s Army on Facebook – click here!

Walk or Run one mile anywhere this Saturday, May 8, to honor Ava in the Sammy’s Superheroes Walk To Remember! Your $10 donation raises money for childhood cancer research! CLICK HERE for more information!

Learn more about Down Syndrome Alliance of the Midlands – including the Building The Future Gala this month! CLICK HERE for more information!

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Omaha Nursing Student and ‘Smart Girl’ Competing For Miss Nebraska

Alexandria Roth and Allie Swanson are adding to their already jam-packed schedules, both hoping to be crowned Miss Nebraska 2019 this week and compete in this year’s Miss America competition live on NBC. Roth is nursing student and Nurse Tech at CHI Health Creighton University Medical Center-Bergan Mercy; Swanson is a graduate program student, state champion basketball coach, and Engagement Coordinator with Omaha based non-profit Smart Girl Society.

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Roth, a 24-year old Wall Lake, Iowa native who now lives in Omaha, studies at the College of Saint Mary and will graduate with multiple honors in July. She has participated in events across Nebraska and Iowa advocating for people with diabetes and educating others on what diabetes is and what the symptoms are. Roth, diagnosed with diabetes as a child, is the first Miss Nebraska candidate in recent years to display her insulin pump throughout all stages of competition.

“My social impact initiative, Don’t Sugarcoat It: Diabetes Awareness and Advocacy stems from my own diagnosis and struggle with diabetes. Although over 30 million Americans have diabetes, but I often run into individuals who do not know much about it,” said Roth. “As Miss Nebraska I plan to work with the Nebraska Legislature to draft a bill that would put a limit on how much diabetics are charged for their prescriptions. Ultimately, being selected as Miss Nebraska isn’t about me, it is about serving the state of Nebraska and being a good representative and role model. I hope that if chosen I can visit all parts of the state to educate everyone from children to adults and advocate for diabetics.”

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Swanson, a 24-year old graduate and two time All-American athlete and Scholar All-American from Evangel University, is now pursuing her Master’s degree at Bellevue University. Swanson, who was selected to sing the national anthem at the 2018 College World Series, performs across the midwest through My City Church; she is an Assistant Girls Varsity Basketball Coach at her alma mater, Millard North High School; she is a certified barre-code instructor at The Barre Code-West Omaha; and she is the Society Engagement Coordinator at Smart Gen Society (formerly Smart Girl Society), a non-profit teaching students, parents, and educators how to safely use digital media. Swanson has been sharing that message across the state as both Miss Omaha and Miss Heartland, winning the Miss Nebraska Overall Interview Award and Community Service Award in 2018, and finishing as 3rd Runner Up. She is again nominated for the Miss Nebraska Community Service Award this year.

“I love setting big goals and pushing myself to accomplish them,” said Swanson. “I have raised over $60,000 for SGS programming and education, while also acquiring partnerships from Microsoft, the FBI, and NCMEC. In a world where 3.2 Billion people use social media every day, my social impact initiative aims is a proven model across seven states that have drastically decreased digital based anxiety, depression, sexting, and cyberbullying. My message to everyone is that your online presence affects more than just you.”

Preliminary competition at the 2019 Miss Nebraska event begins tonight, June 6 in North Platte, Nebraska, and will be streamed live online at www.MissNebraska.org. Candidates are eligible for more than $70,000 in prize packages and an estimated $1.4 million in in-kind college scholarships. Tickets are still available for the event.

Finding Balance

It’s a vicious cycle.

I desperately want the candy. Just one taste turns into a handful, then some crackers, then FORGET MY DIET, I’LL START OVER TOMORROW. Then I see those photos.. of others looking fabulous, and of myself… not so much. Maybe it’s karma. I was barely 110 my senior year of high school – couldn’t even donate blood because I didn’t weigh enough – and that was visiting McD’s every day after school for a shake and fries. Calories had no effect on me.

The changes came gradually… crazy work schedules, shifts in metabolism, two babies, and career changes… and all of the sudden I weigh more than I did after my first maternity leave, and I can’t say no to the candy.

I’m trying to focus on LIFESTYLE changes and not short-term diets. Healthier choices. Now when my sweet tooth takes hold and won’t loosen its grip, I reach for the Halo Top instead of my kids’ Drumsticks.

This is one of the things I love about the Miss Nebraska program. (‘Woah, Petersen, that was a leap! Where you going with this?’) No, really, hear me out – the young women who compete in our program are learning BALANCE. Yes, they have a set date and goal, fast approaching in less than 2 weeks, but so many of these girls are learning the science behind health and nutrition. They are NOT starving themselves to get skinny – they are fueling their bodies to become STRONG. The lessons they take from this year or several help shape how many of them balance their choices for years after.

Case in point: the current Miss Omaha, a former collegiate athlete who owns her own personal training business.

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Photo courtesy Jenn Cady Photography

Yup. A beauty who could beat you up. (Not that she ever would.)

“I have been an athlete my whole life, and I am a competitor at heart,” Allie Swanson told me recently. “I love pushing myself to the limit in all areas of my life.”

In Allie’s case, that balance I referred to all equates to being extremely well-rounded; she’s also a Cum Laude graduate and All-American scholar, a talented vocalist chosen to sing at this year’s College World Series, and a driven public servant with clear missions she hopes to achieve as the next Miss Nebraska.

“I decided to try the Miss Nebraska pageant because I new it could be a great vessel to enact the type of change I want to see in the state of Nebraska,” said Allie. “I have seen so much growth in my personal life even just preparing for Miss Omaha and now preparing for Miss Nebraska. I am combining all of my favorite things – promoting digital literacy, service, music, public speaking, style, and confidence, among other things.”

Oh, where to begin?

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How about October, when Allie was crowned Miss Omaha 2018. In the audience, cheering on her every move was her big sister, Miss Nebraska 2014 Megan Swanson. Allie, too, was a constant supporter for her sister when she competed, but she draws her inspiration from powerful women like US Ambassador Nikki Haley, former Nebraska Governor Kay Orr, and Omaha Mayor Jean Stothert. Allie is a woman who knows her leaders, noting 13 of Nebraska’s State Senators are women.

 

 

“My goal is to impact 20,000 lives this year, and I understand that this is no small feat,” said Allie. “I have gotten to speak to students, sports teams, educators, parents and government officials about my platform, and that alone makes this job so worth it. Being a titleholder has gotten me in the door to places that normal ‘Allie’ wouldn’t have, and because of this I have been able to spread my message of CyberSmartz to people of all ages and backgrounds.”

That’s how Allie Swanson hopes to make her mark, by helping as many people as possible protect themselves in a digital world. She visits school assemblies and other groups with some scary statistics:

  • 97% of American children under the age of four use mobile devices, regardless of family income.
  • The average teenager spends 72 hours PER WEEK using media, but only 38.5 MINUTES per week participating in face-to-face, meaningful conversation with their parents.
  • The average US parent says they do not fully understand today’s most popular ‘apps’ or the extent of content their children are using on digital media platforms.

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“As Program Coordinator for Smart Girl Society, a non-profit based in Omaha, I have seen firsthand the need in Nebraska and across the country for this message,” said Allie. “The biggest issue facing all generations, all states, and beyond is the technology crisis. People are addicted to technology, losing the ability to have face-to-face conversations with people, unaware of the effects of their digital footprints, and oversharing online. We can start by raising awareness and educating people on proper privacy and safety settings, as well as techniques to take back control.”

As Allie noted, she may be attracting more and bigger audiences because of her ‘Miss Omaha’ status.. but her run at Miss Nebraska could also directly benefit her mission with CyberSmartz, through scholarships financing her higher education and career plans. At this year’s Miss Nebraska competition, we are offering $70,000 in cash scholarships, gifts and services, and an additional $1.4 million, MILLION, in in-kind college scholarships. Miss Nebraska 2018 will receive at least $10,000 in cash to pay for her college education.

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“This Miss America program will allow me to obtain a Masters of Media Communication and Psychology, in the hopes of one day studying at the Stanford University Persuasive Technology Lab,” said Allie. “I plan to continue working at Smart Girl Society, but move up in position, and I hope to eventually take over as CEO to continue to spread the message of digital literacy and safety.”

Here’s a young woman who could do, and IS doing, EVERYTHING. Speaking, singing, and scoring points with fans everywhere she goes…

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…literally and figuratively. I look to women like Allie, MANY years my junior, and am inspired by all they are, all they hope to be, and the BALANCE they have discovered and are honing at such young ages.

Start somewhere. Find your October. Tonight, I said no to the candy and reached for the Halo Top.

Allie Swanson is reaching, too… for the VERY top, and no less.

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“I am thankful that my family encouraged me to pursue a variety of interests, extracurricular activities, and to get out of my comfort zone to learn about the world and myself,” said Allie. “With core values of hard work, integrity, responsibility and truth, I aspire to be a woman of great influence, and my background gives me the support to be the change I want to see in this world. I was and still m the girl who wants to do it all.”

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To follow Miss Omaha Allie Swanson, click here.

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The Miss Nebraska Scholarship Competition takes place June 7-9 in North Platte, Nebraska.

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Priceless

I just shared a jaw-dropping stat across social media:

This year, we will award a record-breaking $70,000 in cash, gifts and services to Miss Nebraska contestants, PLUS we will offer more than $1.4 MILLION in college scholarships!!!

That’s not a typo. $70,000. $1.4 million.

There are so many great things about participating in this program, that huge scholarship and prize haul being one of them! But more often than not, when new young women try a Miss Nebraska local pageant, we learn it’s the intangibles that drew them to compete.

Hayden Richardson was inspired by a friend and sorority sister, leading by example.

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“I had seen how Allie Tietjen had thrived in the system,” Hayden told me. “She is my role model because she is the most positive and compassionate woman I have ever met. As a sister in Alpha Phi as well as a dear friend of mine, I have seen all sides of her and her bubbly personality is so authentic, whether she in in pajamas or in crown and sash, she is true to herself.”

At 19 years old, the University of Nebraska-Lincoln student decided to give this pageant thing a go, too.. and won the title of Miss Twin Rivers on her first try. Her friend, Allison, aka Miss Nebraska 2017, was at her side to crown her.

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“I could not think of a better way to improve as an individual than to partake in something that has made Allie the strong woman she is.”

Allison won the Miss Nebraska Community Service Award in 2017. Hayden immediately followed suit, setting a goal to hit the ground running with a platform targeting a crisis spreading throughout Nebraska and beyond.”My platform is based on child trafficking in the state of Nebraska,” said Hayden. “I am focused on raising awareness of the issue, educating school faculty, and creating positive self image with our students. I have partnered with the Nebraska Coalition Against Human Trafficking, in which I have been able to speak to differing groups, from schools to girl scout troupes, advocating for each different aspect.”

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“Service is absolutely the most important part of the Miss America crown to me,” said Hayden. “My goal as Miss Nebraska is to have 10,000 children and community members hear my message. In spreading awareness of human trafficking and helping to reduce the risk factors, my goal is to change the lives of children that may have fallen victim.”

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Hayden’s goals are not exclusive to winning that Miss Nebraska crown. The self described ‘political science geek’ plans to someday become a lawyer.

“I want to pursue a life rooted in the advancement of human rights laws on the nonprofit side,” said Hayden, who is currently working for Nebraska State Senator Kate Bolz. “Later down the road, I wish to run for the House of Representatives to advance my message and serve my state and country. The Miss Nebraska Organization is allowing me the opportunity to begin my work now as a freshman in college to advance the knowledge of human trafficking here in Nebraska, as well as giving me the life skills necessary to work in an adverse field.”

And like so many other contestants this year and for years prior, this outlet is also an opportunity for Hayden to showcase her other talents and improve every aspect of herself creatively, mentally and physically. As a national-level competitive cheerleader and dancer, Hayden has found new stages to perform. As a 2012 Nebraska Gymnastics Championships competitor, she’s found new reasons to continue a focus on physical health and wellness.

“Miss Nebraska is essential to the state because it provides the role models for young girls across Nebraska,” said Hayden. “As a public servant, Miss Nebraska educates and inspires our youth to be the best they can be. It is so important to continue that.”

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Just as Miss Nebraska Allison Tietjen inspired Hayden, she now hopes to inspire others. Little girls in her hometown of Bennington are now watching not only Hayden, but newly crowned Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen Kelsie Therkildsen. And early next month, just one day before she leaves for her own state competition, Hayden will invite many those children to join her and directly make a difference in the lives of other Omaha kids.

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In the end, that’s what so many women like Hayden, and Allison, and myself, recall most about being part of the Miss Nebraska Organization. The money is AWESOME to help pay for school. The opportunities to perform and shine are empowering. But the impact you can have on your community and world around you thanks to a little extra notoriety in a ‘Miss So and So’ title…. those memories are priceless.

“The best part of this has been interacting with my community,” said Hayden. “I have made so many more connections than I would have ever been able to without the Miss Nebraska system. This  It gives us a way to voice who we are as women, and further develops our sense of self.”

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To follow Miss Twin Rivers Hayden Richardson, click here.

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The Miss Nebraska Scholarship Competition takes place June 7-9 in North Platte, Nebraska.

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Dreaming Big

I still remember being a little girl with HUGE glasses, taking field trips to The Rose or to Papillion-La Vista High School to watch theater. I was IN AWE. I idolized the actors and singers and wanted, so badly, to be on that stage just like them.

When I got to high school, Drama classes were a must, and I tried out for PLHS’s production of Oklahoma! I was one of the youngest students cast – I couldn’t even drive home from rehearsals everyday! I was ‘adopted’ by one of the stars of the show, Alyssa Passey.

Alyssa was a senior (guys, A SENIOR!!) who, for whatever amazing reason, befriended me during those months I really didn’t know anyone else. She drove me home everyday in her amazing pink Dodge Neon (which was AWESOME), and just made me feel COOL. I wanted to be JUST. LIKE. HER.

A 13-year old Millard North Middle School student has a very similar story.. except her Alyssa’s literally sparkled before her eyes.

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Her name is Marissa Messick. When this photo was taken, she was just 6 years old and IN HEAVEN.

“Everything started when I was a Little Sister for the Miss Omaha/Miss Douglas County Pageant in 2010,” said Marissa. “My Big Sister, Mindy Schreiber, won Miss Douglas County that night and it was so great to be able to go through that experience with her.”

And Marissa met more Queens over the next several years, as a World Champion baton twirler with The Stepperette’s, a team that has included Miss Nebraska 2001 Tina Foehlinger, Miss Nebraska runners up Tami and Rachel Foehlinger, and Miss Nebraska 2016 Aleah Peters. Marissa learned more and more about the sash and crown she’d seen so many times as a little girl.

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“Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen and Miss Nebraska are great programs,” said Marissa. “They teach you how to find yourself and they help you become more confident. It helps with paying for school. More importantly, it defies a common fear of public speaking. Being able to speak in public is an amazing life skill and this program helps majorly with being more comfortable doing that.”

 

 

So this year, Marissa decided to try this whole pageant thing for herself, and was crowned Miss Millard’s Outstanding Teen.

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“My favorite part of being a titleholder is being able to meet so many people and have younger kids look up to me,” said Marissa. “It’s amazing to be able to walk into a room and see their faces just light up with a huge smile and say ‘Mom, look, a princess’. Then you can tell them about your platform and they listen with everything they have because they’re talking to a princess. You can light up their day and impact their lives all in one.”

Marissa has used that attention to promote kindness and respect for others, a mission she calls ‘Believe In The Golden Rule.’

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“Treat others how you like to be treated,” said Marissa. “So many people judge and bully others on what they look like, what they do, how smart they are, and how much money their families make. I’ve talked to Alternate Curriculum Program students at my school about this; they shouldn’t be treated any differently then we get treated. Also, I wrote a book on the Golden Rule in English class and read it to 2nd graders at Cather Elementary.”

Those speaking opportunities are also benefitting Marissa. She’ll begin classes at Millard North High School next fall, and hopes to someday become a lawyer.

“This is definitely helping me because I have to be able to form opinions on topics. I will have to be ok and comfortable with public speaking,” said Marissa. “Also, I will have to know how to balance my time, and being an 8th grader while getting ready for high school, spending time with friends, doing appearances, twirling and preparing for State definitely teaches me how to healthily balance my time.”

‘State’ is the Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen competition, the next step in Marissa’s journey. The same moments she watched as a little girl with a smile on her face and starts in her eyes are now in her path.

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“My goal isn’t to win, which sounds strange, but my goal is to meet friends and have a good experience,” said Marissa. “It doesn’t matter if you win at state or if you had the best dress, but the changes you made. I think, not just with Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen but with everything you do in life, what you leave behind is most important.”

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To follow Miss Millard’s Outstanding Teen Marissa Messick, click here.

For more information about the Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen program or to become a contestant, CLICK HERE to follow the organization on Facebook, or CLICK HERE to follow the organization on Twitter. You can also contact Director Heather Edwards at heatheraloseke@gmail.com or Director Kali Tripp at KaliNicoleTV@gmail.com.

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The Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen Competition takes place April 28 in North Omaha, Nebraska.

PREVIOUS.. Miss Elkhorn’s Outstading Teen Rachel Greufe

NEXT.. Special 3-Part Post! Miss Eastern Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen Sofia Drelicharz, Miss Heartland’s Outstanding Teen Aubrie Charter, and Miss North Platte’s Outstanding Teen Aspen Golter

The Greatest Love Of All

I woke up this weekend to a notification on my phone: ‘It’s Aleah’s birthday!’ Aleah, as in Miss Nebraska 2016 Aleah Peters. I knew immediately what I wanted to share to wish her the best and hopefully make her smile.

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This photo was taken at Aleah’s send-off party for Miss America in the summer of 2016. My boys were IN HEAVEN. This look on Easton’s face is one of my all-time favorites.

A lot of people like kids. Some people were simply MEANT to work with children. You see the proof in photos like this, and how they continue to focus on kids long after their pageant days are done.

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The same day Miss Nebraska 2015 Alyssa Howell turned 23, she announced that she will be teaching 3rd grade at Elkhorn’s Manchester Elementary next year. Part of the legacy she wanted to leave as Miss Nebraska was that she had an impact on children; my feature article on her in 2014 was entitled ‘The Kid Whisperer.’

Another young lady in Elkhorn hopes to follow both Alyssa and Aleah’s lead.

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“As a child, any girl with a crown and a purpose just reminded me how much I wanted to make a difference when I got older,” said Rachel Greufe, Miss Elkhorn’s Outstanding Teen. Both of her sisters competed in pageants, and Rachel’s family has long-promoted community service. They’ll be by her side as she competes to become Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen.

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They’ve been cheering her on for years now; Rachel is a state champion cheerleader at Elkhorn South, where she is also president of the Student Council, president of Junior Class Board, and part of the Storm’s award-winning varsity show choir.

So why add one more activity to the list?

“Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen teaches young women to be poised, cordial, and giving,” said Rachel. In a local title, Rachel also found a high-profile opportunity raise awareness about a very personal fight against skin cancer.

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“My platform is Loving The Skin You’re In,” said Rachel. “This platform was inspired by my parents and the struggles they have gone through. My mom had colon cancer and my dad had skin cancer. But, my family was fortunate enough to come out of it stronger than before. Although both experiences were scary at the time, my dad’s cancer allowed me to see the sun in a new light (pun intended). I know now that there are many issues regarding its strength and how teenagers and people of all ages underestimate it. I encourage men and women to “love the skin they’re in” instead of ruining it at a young age. My dad’s experiences have shaped mine and have reminded me to always wear protection when going out in the sun, NEVER tan in a tanning bed, and truly love the skin I was given.”

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And while that mission has taken her to some wonderful places, including meeting Omaha Mayor Jean Stothert, Rachel is focused on the children and teenagers she connects with, especially the other young women she’ll compete alongside for a state title later this week.

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“My goal at the Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen pageant is to bond with the wonderful girls from all across Nebraska,” said Rachel. “I can’t wait to meet them and learn about all the good each girl has done. I can’t wait!”

 

 

The common thread between so many Miss Nebraska’s is children. As Alyssa Howell decorates her new classroom this fall, so too will teachers and former Miss Nebraska’s Mariah Cook (2012) and Jill Pennington (2000). Miss Nebraska 2011 Kayla Batt-Jacox is currently planning a piano recital for all of the kids she teaches every day. Miss Nebraska 1999 Becky Smith inspires and mentors hundreds of little girls as the owner and teacher of The Dance Factory in North Platte and Ogallala.

Rachel wants to be an orthodontist, opening up her own practice in her home state to continue working with kids. She hopes she doesn’t have to wait that long to simply inspire children.

“[Making a difference] is exactly what I am trying to do now,” said Rachel. “Making a difference and inspiring younger girls is my purpose and favorite part of being a titleholder.”

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To follow Miss Elkhorn’s Outstanding Teen Rachel Greufe, click here.

For more information about the Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen program or to become a contestant, CLICK HERE to follow the organization on Facebook, or CLICK HERE to follow the organization on Twitter. You can also contact Director Heather Edwards at heatheraloseke@gmail.com or Director Kali Tripp at KaliNicoleTV@gmail.com.

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The Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen Competition takes place April 28 in North Omaha, Nebraska.

PREVIOUS.. Miss Metro’s Outstanding Teen Kelsie Therkildsen

NEXT.. Miss Millard’s Outstanding Teen Marissa Messick

Spirit of Service

It’s easy to pass judgment, especially when you encounter someone who seems so unlike yourself. The problem is, you really can’t judge a book by its cover… one glance never provides a person’s whole story, or the big picture in general.

For example.. being homeless.. what do you think of?

‘They’ve done that to themself’

‘They should just get a job’

What do you think of this?

The average age of a homeless person is 9 years old.

1 in 4 homeless children do not know where their next meal is coming from.

In Omaha, there are an average of 200 children eating and sleeping at the Open Door Mission every, single day.

Those are the facts Hillside Elementary teachers and students learned about last November just before Thanksgiving. Kindergarten teachers invited Open Door Mission President Candace Gregory to the school to help children best understand the very real problem of homelessness in our community. She told Hillside, “it only takes one person to make a difference.”

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Even at 5 and 6 years old, these kids got the message. They and their families, along with Hillside teachers, held a diaper drive and delivered a huge load of supplies to the Open Door Mission, just in time for Christmas.

That is exactly what an Elkhorn teenager hopes to see more of, something she’s been promoting for five years and counting.

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“I have made hundreds of blankets for the homeless population,” said Emily Lenser, just 16-years old. “One of my favorite things to do is have blanket drives at schools. This year at one school we collected 106 blankets. I have also donated stuffed animals and books to shelters. It was very exciting taking them a local homeless shelter. I know it makes the residents so happy when they have a comfy blanket and stuffed animal and book for their children.”

 

 

This is one busy girl, folks – in addition to her volunteer work, Emily is also a successful student at Elkhorn South, inspired by a family of educators including her grandparents and her mom.

“My goal has always been to be a doctor,” said Emily. “I really enjoy working with children, and I would like to go into pediatrics.”

She’s also an accomplished dancer, competing with the Nebraska Dance Company and the competitive dance team at Elkhorn South, which just won a state title. A few years ago, Emily found a way to combine all of her passions into one outlet; she was crowned Miss Elkhorn’s Outstanding Teen in 2017, she’s currently Miss Kool-Aid Days Outstanding Teen 2018, and she will compete for the title of Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen this April.

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“I love that Miss America stands for Scholarship, Service, Style and Success,” said Emily. “Most people do not realize that people win scholarship money in this wonderful system. It comforts me knowing that as a junior in high school, I already have nearly $1000 towards college. This has also been a great opportunity to further my skills with public speaking and interviewing.”

It’s also been a vessel allowing Emily more opportunities to give to others. She’s delivered Valentines to nursing home residents, promoted community events, and taken part in fundraiser for important causes across the state.

“I believe service is the most important,” said Emily. “I really enjoy helping others. In my opinion, serving the community is something that every middle school and high school should require. I think it makes a person more compassionate and understanding.”

UNDERSTANDING. At a time when it’s so easy to judge, to criticize, to sit back and condemn rather than dive in and help, it is wonderful to see young people who are actively breaking those patterns. Their actions are not only helping improve the lives of others, but I would argue, enriching their young lives as well.

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Jesse Jackson once said, ‘Never look down at someone unless you are helping them up.’ Today I challenge you (and myself): don’t judge. Follow the lead of our youngest learners at Hillside, or Miss Kool-Aid Days Emily Lenser… and simply be nice.

“I wouldn’t want to represent anything but Nebraska,” said Emily. “My goal is just to enjoy this wonderful experience.”

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To follow Miss Kool-Aid Days Outstanding Teen Emily Lenser on Facebook, click here.

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For more information about the Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen program or to become a contestant, CLICK HERE to follow the organization on Facebook, or CLICK HERE to follow the organization on Twitter. You can also contact Director Heather Edwards at heatheraloseke@gmail.com or Director Kali Tripp at KaliNicoleTV@gmail.com.

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The Miss Nebraska’s Outstanding Teen Competition takes place April 28 in North Omaha, Nebraska.

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Going The Extra Mile

I follow many law enforcement officers on the Twitterverse. It’s the same reason I follow celebrities I will never meet; because their random posts give me a little peek into a part of the world we’re not part of. Police officers see things we don’t, and don’t have to. Twitter provides all of us a way to connect with each other through one common thread; we’re all just people who make jokes, feel emotion, and sometimes, are compelled to share our thoughts or opinions in the hopes of impacting maybe one other person.

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75 mph with your head buried in your phone, completely oblivious to me following behind you and then beside you. A crash at that speed is catastrophic and kills people. A $200 dollar ticket is cheap compared to what could have happened.  – @opdofcbossman

Officer Mike Bossman is a 14-year veteran with the Omaha Police Department. He is a traffic reconstructionist – he is often the first to arrive on the scene after an accident. The warning he posted on Twitter that you see above isn’t just a vague threat, it’s a real-life result he’s witnessed far too many times.

GUYS, THIS HAPPENS. KIDS DIE. I covered it way too many times at KETV, and that’s nothing compared to what Mike has seen on the streets of Omaha.

Krista Hinrichs wanted to do something. She wanted to make a difference in an issue affecting all ages.. something like being a car, put at risk by a distracted driver.

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Krista was crowned Miss Kool-Aid Days 2017, and Miss Douglas County 2018. For the second year in a row, she’ll compete at the Miss Nebraska Competition, hoping to represent our state at the Miss America Pageant. At the max, that’s a handful of days on stage competing.. the rest of every year as a titleholder is spent SERVING. Making sure people are safe behind the wheel has become a key part in Krista’s mission.

“Whether they are in the back seat, the passenger or the driver everyone has a voice and can speak up!” Krista told me. “I partnered with the End Distracted Driving (EndDD) organization which is a group that works everyday to help teach others and prevent distracted driving across the country. One of the most important things to remember when you are driving and there are other passengers in your car…YOU are responsible for everyone’s life and making sure everyone arrives to their destination safely.”

EndDD has provided Krista with resources she’s used in presentations at schools across the state. She’s met with the National Safety Council and State Senator Bob Krist about legislation and current laws regarding distracted driving.

 

 

Nebraska is one of few states in the country in which distracted driving in not a primary violation,” said Krista. “This puts us behind all other states who have recognized and established legal consequences for distracted driving. By acknowledging distracted driving as a law violation, it recognizes the risks of that behavior and allows for consequences that may actually result in changed behaviors in the future.”

Krista uses her Facebook page to share statistics and powerful stories from people she’s met.

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“I love talking to people of all ages, but I also love listening and being present whenever someone has a question for me or wants to tell me more about themselves,” said Krista. “I absolutely love meeting new people, talking to people, and making a connection as well as using this title to create a positive impact for people in the community.”

And community has been central to Krista over the last two years.

She volunteers with Children’s Hospital & Medical Center. She recently won Omaha’s Dancing With The Stars, benefiting Youth Emergency Services. Fundraisers, parades, galas.. Krista is there, hoping to send others, especially children, home with a brighter outlook.

Krista and sis

“I enjoyed getting to settle down during lunchtime [at Miss Omaha] to start to build a relationship with my Little Sister,” said Krista. “My heart was filled when I saw her for the first time and she had made a special good luck card for me! I believe that people may remember a gorgeous gown you wore or your crown at an appearance, but they will also take with them how you made them feel and I want everyone to always feel valued after each conversation or interaction.”

Krista will compete for the title of Miss Nebraska this summer, and while she would love to win, her bigger goal is to connect with people and make an impact.

A will to do more.. it’s something deep within people like Krista Hinrichs and Officer Mike Bossman. Krista is a gifted dancer, a college student, a future child psychologist; she could just focus on those things, or even herself and her goal of winning that sparkly crown. Bossman could just clock in and clock out, hand out tickets and head home knowing he did his job. These two go beyond – they want to make the world better, one visit, one day, and one tweet at a time.

Krista’s latest post… ‘Use your smile to change the world, never let the world change your smile!’ 

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To follow Miss Douglas County Krista Hinrichs on Facebook, click here.

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CLICK HERE * 2017 * The Meaning of Life

For more information about the Miss Omaha/Miss Douglas County Pageant or to become a contestant, CLICK HERE to visit their site on Facebook.  You can also email Director Devin Howell or Director Marianne Grubaugh at missomahapageant@yahoo.com.

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The Miss Nebraska Scholarship Competition takes place June 7-9 in North Platte, Nebraska.

CLICK HERE to follow the Miss Nebraska Organization on Facebook

CLICK HERE to follow the Miss Nebraska Organization on Twitter

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